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Hi!  My name is Pyper, and I'm a student at BYU-Idaho.  For one of my classes, I've been asked to blog about marriage.  As someone who is not married, this is an interesting feat I face.  I hope you find something beneficial in what I'm learning about marriage. 
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 I look forward to learning, and sharing my thoughts and experiences with all of you!

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